There are billions of people in this world. Each of them has particular traits that define their personality. The traits determine how they act, perform, and react.
Those distinct traits give birth to distinctive personalities.
Each one of us is comprised of some characteristics that make us unique. Some of us stand out; some feel no need to be on the front foot while others conquer the world. It is just a matter of how we do things and how wise we are to use our characteristics in the best manner.
INFJ doorslams and INTJ doorslams are two of the most pondered topics. There are some nice-patchable variations between these sorts of people. INFJs process based on logic and facts, while INTJs consider emotions, in themselves as well as others, above everything.
In this article, we’ll be talking about several personality traits, their differences in terms of door slams, and much more. You’ll get a handle on a comparison of these personalities. The door slams and other relevant FAQs will also be addressed.
It’d turn out to be an interesting blog altogether. Let’s get to it right away.
Who Is An INTJ?
INTJs are those people who never let you in. They are simply simulating what it would be like to let you in as they meticulously examine your actions, looking specifically for your motivations. When they do let you in, you’ll know—they will let you know.
However, if they feel threatened or betrayed by you, they will quickly shut you out.
This changes their expression almost instantly, and you are back to square one with them. They are usually very forgiving and understanding of those they have let in, but you’ll most likely never get back in if you are kicked out, which is quite frightening to witness.
More resilient INTJs will tell you openly what happened and how they feel about it, as well as how strongly they feel it, and will decide to keep you inside temporarily or permanently. This is your second chance, and they haven’t kicked you out; in fact, they’ve welcomed you even more.
But by this point, they’ve already braced themselves for the slam. If you can demonstrate that you can improve, you are a very trusted confidant and are often so for life, or you must demonstrate that you are making an earnest and hard effort.
Who Is An INFJ?
INFJs let people in and want to let them in, but they can’t always be selective enough or let people in who can’t or won’t reciprocate, resulting in a very one-sided relationship.
If they do find that mutual relationship, they have no problem opening up and willingly sharing all of their hurts and secrets as long as they are not judged.
When they feel judged, they act as if (and frequently say as they do so) “it was too good to be true.”
It’s heartbreaking to see, and INFJs never let people back in after that, always maintaining a certain distance between themselves and the other person no matter what. More resilient INFJs will not do this, but will simply let you know where the disagreement is. It’ll also decide whether or not you both can see past this roadblock as an open discussion.
INFJs are highly expressive, so you can usually see how much it affects them without them having to verbalize it, and it’s all intentional for them.
You can never tell with less resilient INFJs, and I don’t think they realize how strange your behavior appears to everyone, even if it is completely logical to them.
Or, at the very least, they don’t care how it appears.
How Can You Differentiate Between INFJ Door Slam And INTJ Door Slam?
INFJs slam the door because they believe you are a bad or shallow person they can’t trust, especially if you hurt their feelings. As far as I am aware, INTJs’ doors slam because people are willfully ignorant or people who tend to be dishonest.
INTJs do not door-slam people to the same extent as INFJs, because INTJs have a strong sense of responsibility for looking after/supervising others. An INFJ may door slam a family, but an INTJ won’t.
All in all, INTJs are bothered by ignorance, irrational behavior, a proclivity to make logical errors, and so on. Character flaws such as abusive personality are more repulsive to INFJs. I believe INFJs are more understanding than INTJs in general, but once the door is shut, there is no turning back, regardless of who shut it.
For instance, you are blocked by an INTJ because you bother them by being too stupid or irrational. They take you away to protect their feelings from being hurt.
INFJs avoid you because your harmful presence seeps into them, confusing them about their own moral integrity. They take you away to prevent you from contaminating their minds.
That is a subtle distinction that appears similar from the outside.
How Can You Relate An INTJ And INFJ Metaphorically?
To use a metaphor, the INTJ closes the door and exits the room, leaving you inside. He searches for another room full of intelligent people who are worthy of his company.
On the other hand, The INFJ evicts you, slams the door shut, and stays in the room, relieved that the contaminant has been removed.
If you can demonstrate that you can improve, you are a very trusted confidant and are often so for life, or you must demonstrate that you’re making an earnest and hard effort. As the door closes, the INFJ will apologize and offer to reason.
The INTJ will leave the person on the other side of the door to figure out what went wrong because they believe they have already done their part and provided more than enough hints.
Hence, the way they react is quite different from one another, aren’t they?
Why Is The INTJ Regarded As So Powerful?
A man who is an INTJ, and his daughter is an INFJ has shared his story about being more powerful.
Here’s what I’ve noticed:
- They may sit and consider alternatives for a while, but when they make a decision, get out of their way. And pity the person who doesn’t.
- They’re very self-sufficient.
- They don’t require others in the traditional sense.
- People dislike being unneeded (well, most people).
- You’ll be gone if you become too clingy.
Most everyday occurrences do not bother them, but insult their intelligence or call their logic into question-and watch out, they can become explosive! This trait is quite similar to an INTJ.
Personally, I’ve observed that his daughter is a sweetheart altogether. She adores those she confides in and would defend them to death.
But he kept an eye on her when she was on a “mission.” Only God could put a stop to her.
In addition to that, an INTJ spends a long time thinking and deliberating in multiple iterations, with all the what-ifs and if-not thrown in. It’s because they don’t want to cut anyone out of their lives, especially those they have allowed into their inner circle.
They must have caused the INTJs a significant pain to want to remove them (and their level of influence) from their lives. When they’re released, the chances of them being returned to the same location are almost nil.
The level of trust has been destroyed and will almost certainly never be restored to an INTJ. Even if they decide to reconcile, the new relationship will be shallow in comparison to the old one.
This makes them rigid and insignificant.
INTJ Vs. INFJ Personality
The INFJ personality type stands for the following cognitive functions:
- Introverted Intuition (Ni) is the dominant type.
- Feeling Extroverted (Fe) – auxiliary
- Tertiary Introverted Thinking (Ti)
- Extroverted Sensing (Se) – Below average
On the other hand, The following cognitive functions are possessed by the INTJ personality:
- Extroverted Thinking (Ni)
- Introverted Intuition (Ni)
- Extroverted Sensing (Te)
- Introverted Feeling (Fi)
The characteristics listed above are some of the most common ones between an INTJ and INFJs, with slight detailed differences.
This table shows some of the reasons that lead to INFJ and INTJs being stressed.
|The INTJs are stressed by:||The INFJs are stressed by:|
|Spending too much time with others||Being in congested areas|
|Observing traditional guidelines||Being chastised by others|
|Emotional communication with others||Personal failure or disappointment|
|Meeting new people in groups||Feeling compelled to follow a strict routine|
Which Door Slam Is More Painful, The INTJ Or The INFJ?
I’ll tell you which one “should” hurt more. The INFJ personality type.
If you’ve been slammed by an INFJ, they’ve delved into the depths of your soul, analyzing you from every possible angle and for a long time. It implies that you were completely incapable of changing.
Believe me when I say that an INFJ sees far into the future and does not see your brand of toxicity in their lives.
They rarely give up on people. The unique thing about INFJs is that they usually door slam people when they have exhausted all of the options, resources, energy, and possibilities. It also means that even if they wanted to, they couldn’t because the trust was lost.
This means they’ll never have access to the private lives of INFJs their hopes, and dreams again. They will never be able to take their rightful place in their ideal world again. If it does, it is a hazy fantasy created in our minds because we miss and yearn for what once existed but no longer exists in reality.
In conclusion, when an INFJ personality cuts someone out of their life, this is referred to as an INFJ door slam. The INFJ isn’t the only personality type that avoids people.
Other personality types do this to some extent as well, but INFJs do it more frequently and intensely. In some cases, the INFJ will maintain contact with the person who has been door-slammed.
This occurs when the INFJ’s circumstances make it impossible to completely cut someone out, such as a coworker the INFJ sees every day at work or a family member who attends family events. INTJs tend to compete with themselves.
These people are frequently overly focused on their professional or personal lives, sometimes to the point of exhaustion. You will notice that they are ambitious and eager to produce results, striving to outperform themselves today. Others might label them as workaholics.
Overall, we can say that INTJs and INFJs are apart from each other in terms of their characteristics, door slamming, and way of thinking.
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